Building Confidence – 5 Big Steps
To succeed at anything, you’ve got to be confident. It’s a major demand of life from you!
I got this picture a few years back that changed everything. Imagine you walked into a room with a special gift for someone, anyone. In this room, there are three young boys. You do not know any of them before now, but you are mandated to give this gift to one.
They all see you as you walk in and immediately, one of them strikes back in fear, shame, low self-esteem or whatever reason. The other stands up with a broad smile, ready to say ‘hello’ and the last still sitting frowns and acts like you don’t even exist. Who will get your special gift?
I am confident the smiling lad would.
That’s what confident people do. They hardly get agitated by anyone or anything. They control their emotions and give freely what they want you to have – a smile.
If you don’t know how to smile, stand before your mirror every morning. Smile at yourself for two minutes. Two straight minutes non-stop.
Something will happen in your mind. Your fake smile will turn in quick time to real, genuine heart felt smile. Then go outside and smile at the first person you meet and maybe the next and the next. It’s magical. And a vital boost to your confidence.
Smiling gives people the impression that you are in charge. Frowning does the exact opposite.Mercy Omoregie
- Smash your goals
It amazes me how this scares many persons. People are too comfortable being complacent. They would rather not be held accountable for anything. Don’t let that be you.
Having a goal doesn’t always need to be something big. It could be reading one book a week or even a month if you are not a fast reader. When you succeed at this seemingly little thing, something happens to your self-esteem, like super energy boost.
Do this consistently, set short-term goals for yourself and smash them! See how proud you will be of yourself. And we can’t help it too, but be proud of you!
- Understand yourself
It’s okay to feel afraid or inadequate sometimes. We all do. Don’t let that bother you.
One reason for low self-esteem is ignorance of who you are. When you understand who you are and the things you are good at, you take more pride in it. That said, focus on your strength!
This implies not judging yourself based on your weaknesses, but focusing on and celebrating your strength.
To fully grasps and enjoy this, you need to discover and appreciate who you are. This personality check will guide you in understanding your uniqueness, your personality, and your strength. Learn more.
This is also one way to end comparison – a common drain on self-worth. Now you know you are different and enough. Those who compare themselves with themselves are not wise.
- Do something you love often
Very related to understanding yourself is doing something you really love and enjoy. Less than 10% of my writings end up online. There is this feeling of fulfillment, almost like a mixed of dopamine and oxytocin I experience each time I write. It intoxicates, always set me in the right mood.
I love the fact that my writings inspire you, that’s the goal for BeInspired Show Global Network: to inspire true positive change in every way we can. Yet, another thing I love even more is that I completely enjoy writing every piece of my work.
There are many things we can do for money. Find that one thing you can do joyfully without being paid. Do this as often as you can. Writing, dancing, singing, painting, swimming, traveling, you name it!
It’s even more beautiful when you make this your career or in-script it into your life’s purpose.
- Respect yourself
You lose respect for yourself when you consistently go against your own words. Not doing the things you have said you would do.
Self respect is standing by your own words.
Words are the easiest thing to give, but not the easiest to keep. Being able to stand by your words despite challenges of life helps you develop respect for yourself and then from others.
Respecting yourself also entails building good character. In a world where being savage is invoked, practicing virtues such as kindness, honesty, discipline, respect for others, will always help you stand tall.
You know what you have is precious; we know that too and almost everyone soon or later will come to appreciate and respect you for it.
THREE QUICK BONUS TIPS
Many times, you are just a word of prayer away from all that you desire. Learn to talk to God about all your needs.
Be grateful for the little things and the big things too. It prepares you for better things to come. Keep a gratitude journal.
Say I am good enough! I am such a confident girl or boy! I am excellent at what I do! I am beautiful in and out! I am great!!! Finally, be around positive people, give and accept compliments graciously.
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