Protecting your self-esteem is your responsibility.
As a matter of fact. If you allow people, friends, families or enemies toil with your self-esteem, you are not ready for anything great yet!
Today, I am sharing the story of a friend Victor (not his real name), and yes with his full consent and permission. With hopes that someone will learn from it.
Victor is a software developer and one of the selected experts who worked with Google last year training students in various secondary schools on coding and web development.
Victor is a great, smart, gentle, and very hard-working guy!
I met Victor for the first time sometime around June last year, at the Edo State library.
Yeah.. I go there sometimes to write when I need a quiet and different environment.
I had been seeing Victor’s face around prior to that day. He was very nice and respectful, that got me interested in what he was doing.
That particular day stood out because of what I observed.
Victor’s friends were always teasing him and bringing him down with words.
I got to find out that day he was learning his craft “how to code” and had started doing small jobs for people. So I ask;
“Can you come to the Edo Innovates Hub?”
Victor didn’t know about the hub.
“Where is that ma’am? I don’t know about it”
Again his ‘friends’ started another round of teasing.
“Haa! Ode! You don’t even know anything! How can you not know about the Edo innovate hub? Bla bla and bla…”
They actually used worst derogatory words on him that I don’t even think it’s appropriate to type on my blog.
Now this may be normal to some people, but as far as I was and still concerned, it is totally unacceptable.
If the only jokes your friends know how to tell are insulting and derogatory, two things it tells me;
You are around the wrong people!
And their unintelligent down playing, their insecurities and low self-esteem will eventually rub off on you, if it hasn’t already.
Get out from among them!
You don’t hang around people who do not value you!
People who are just so blind to all the great things about you.
People who are only interested in tearing you down with words. Of course, they always call it jokes.
But let me tell you a thing, if you don’t leave them now, you are never going to actualize your full potentials!!
Having a healthy self-esteem as Brian Tracy puts it is seen in how much you love, respect and value yourself…
You don’t allow others to treat you in a manner that shows you are not of any worth!
When you don’t respect and honor yourself, you won’t expect to be treated with respect and might accept abuse or withholding behavior.
Why did Jesus have to leave Nazareth? Why did He leave his brethren? People He should call brother. Why?
Because they never believed in him.
They kept saying to Him, “If you think you are truly who you say you are, why don’t you go out and perform your wonders? Why are you still here?” (Paraphrased)
Their unbelief, overfamiliarity, and mockery words hindered our Lord Jesus Christ from performing much miracles amongst them.
How could he? When the people do not believe in Him! When they make mockery of Him, when they think He is only but a little boy, a carpenter! Mark 6:4&5
Jesus could not fully manifest his awesomeness and great powers because some persons would mock and tease him.
See how powerful your environment is??
Your network, the people you called friends.
But guess what?
My darling Jesus took a walk!
He started going from village to village.
See, you either get out from among those vultures and make your decision crystal to them or get ready to remain their joking tools for life.
Back to the story of Victor, I invited him to the hub, he came and was so glad a place like that existed.
I told him he must cut off from those friends. His result shows he heeded.
Today, he has mastered his craft so well that he now even works for Google and that is only the beginning for him.
The other day we met, he said; “Anty Mercy thank you so much.” And I told him, “I am glad you took charge of your life!”
Dear friend, I am saying the same thing to you. You should not and cannot be a joking tool for anybody.
Protect your self esteem, love respect and value yourself. Because you are inestimable, you are priceless, full of greatness!
Guide your mental and emotional health jealously.
Be mindful of the company you keep.
Take charge of your life!
Stop seeking love and acceptance from everybody. Be comfortable with yourself, your story, your journey, your process!
Even Jesus was never fully loved nor accepted by His own people.
If you love and accept yourself, the right people will show up!
To those whose self-esteem have been impaired and now you do the same things they once did to you,
Teasing, mocking and body shaming people…
It’s time to get help, it’s time to take the right stand! Drop those ‘toxic’ self-esteem as Mark Manson author of “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” puts it.
Start with affirmations, say to yourself each morning, “I love myself!” Does that sound awkward to you? Say it again!
How you see and esteem yourself is how people will see and treat you.
Hang out with great minds! People who see and appreciate your worth!
Learn integrity, show compassion, embrace empathy.
Set goals and meet them.
Set higher goals and smash them!
That’s how to build true confidence and a healthy self esteem!!!
In summary, protect your self esteem. Love, respect and value yourself. Let no one tear you down with words. Like Paul will tell Timothy; “let no man dispiresed thy youth…” Be around the right people. Show compassion. Build great relationships and you can only build great relationships with great minds!
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PSSS: How best do you protect your self-esteem? What experience can you share?
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